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Nov 12, 2009

Can smoking marijuana make you crazy?


In short, yes. The best available scientific evidence shows that teens who smoke marijuana are 40 percent more likely to develop psychosis and/or schizophrenia when compared to teens who do not use this drug. This finding was recently reported in Lancet, one of the most prestigious medical journals in the world. The research shows a “dose dependent relationship, meaning that the more one smokes, the more likely he or she is to develop serious mental illness.
Why? It’s not yet clear. Reports from Emergency Rooms in the US and United Kingdom are showing a dramatic increase of psychotic symptoms and schizophrenia in teens who smoke marijuana who have no history of schizophrenia or psychosis.Many suspect, as do I, that potency of cannabis may be to blame. Hydroponically grown cannabis, called “Crippy is 5-8 times more potent in its THC content that marijuana in decades past. The developing brain simply cannot handle the powerful psychoactive affects of this drug. In addition marijuana stays in the brain for months, maybe longer, and users remain impaired, particularly in their thinking, problem solving ability and emotional health. Conclusion–marijuana NOT is a harmless drug.
Unfortunately the regular users will dismiss this evidence as yet another scare tactic, but hopefully these facts will cause others to consider that a healthy brain is infinitely more valuable than a temporary buzz.

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Nov 11, 2009

Signs and symptoms of Internet sexual addiction


National Council on Sexual Addiction and Compulsivity has defined sexual addiction as “engaging in persistent and escalating patterns of sexual behavior acted out despite increasing negative consequences to self and others.
Signs and Symptoms of Internet Sexual Addiction include:

  • Frequent use of the Internet to visit sexually oriented sites
  • Binging—hours spent surfing the net or engaged in online sexual activity
  • Preoccupied with thoughts of “getting online”, or of sexual behavior
  • Sexual behavior interferes with work, school, family, hobbies, etc…
  • Anxiety and irritability when unable to get online.
  • Telling your self that you should cut down, or stop altogether
  • Experiencing guilt, remorse and shame
  • Become defensive when others suggest that you spend too much time on the Internet
  • Spending money on internet porn
  • Continued consumption of porn despite negative consequences

Pornography is not real. The more one uses porn to gratify themselves, the greater the chance that they will never find trueintimacy and real love.
If you need help talk with a trusted friend, parent, or clergy. You cannot do it alone.

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Nov 10, 2009

Does my daughter have anorexia? Part 2


Some characteristics or family traits associated with anorexia include:

  • excessive concern within the family with outward appearances, including body shape and weight
  • parental focus on perfection and performance; harsh criticism for mistakes and inappropriate ways of dealing with conflict
  • family history of sexual abuse
  • strained relationship between husband and wife
  • arbitrary role boundaries where children are encouraged to act more responsible than their age should permit and to take on roles or responsibilities for which they are psychologically ill-prepared

Medical complications
The physical complications associated with anorexia-nervosa are potentially life-threatening. Damage to vital organs as a result of dehydration and malnutrition can result in:

  • low blood pressure
  • electrolyte imbalance
  • cardiac arrhythmias
  • thyroid gland deficiencies which can lead to cold intolerance and constipation
  • appearance of fine baby-like body hair (lanugo)
  • bloating or edema
  • decrease in white blood cells, which leads to increased susceptibility to infection
  • osteoporosis
  • tooth erosion and decay from malnutrition and self-induced vomiting
  • seizures related to fluid shifts due to excessive diarrhea or vomiting

The course and outcome of anorexia vary. Catching it in the early stages is associated with better treatment outcomes. Affirming our daughters true beauty and unconditional worth is both the best medicine and prevention.
If you think your daughter has anorexia talk with your child’s pediatrician, or your family doctor. They can assist you in finding a qualified mental health professional.

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Nov 09, 2009

Does My Daughter Have Anorexia? – Part 1


Anorexia Nervosa is a chronic, potentially life-threatening eating disorder. It is characterized by deliberate restriction of calories to the point of starvation. Anorexia usually begins at during puberty. Over a lifetime it will affect 1-2 percent of females in the US. Anorexia is most common among adolescent girls and young women, athletes, actors, dancers, models and media personalities.
Teens with anorexia are obsessed with their body weight and shape, fat distribution,dress size, food and calories, and have a pathologically distorted body image. In short they look in their mirror and see a fat girl when we see a sickly emaciated child.Symptoms include:

  • restriction of calories to maintain a body weight that is less than 85 percent of the individual’s normal healthy weight. For example if a14 year-old girl’s normal, healthy body weight were 100 pounds, her anorexic weight would be an emaciated 85 pounds or less.
  • obsessive preoccupation with body weight and intense fear of gaining weight or becoming fat
  • grossly distorted body image resulting in severe psychological and emotional impact on how one sees and values herself
  • absence of at least three consecutive menstrual cycles (amenorrhea)

Types of anorexia
There are two types of anorexia nervosa, the restricting type and the binge-eating/purging type. Binge eating and purging behavior is defined as self-induced vomiting or the misuse of laxatives, diuretics, or enemas and excessive exercise. In both types the symptoms are driven by fear of weight gain. Restrictive types do not binge or purge.

Causes of anorexia
Anorexia is a poorly understood, multifaceted disease; the exact cause or causes are unknown and are likely caused by several factors including genetics, personality type, family environment and brain biochemistry.
Scientists have found that the neurotransmitters (brain chemical messengers) serotonin and nor-epinephrine are frequently decreased in patients with anorexia in much the same way as individuals with depression.
Common personality traits among those with anorexia include low self-esteem, obsessive tendencies and perfectionism. Those with anorexia tend to be very driven to succeed in academics and sports, while never satisfied with themselves or their performance. This hidden low self-esteem is pathologically tied to their appearance and body image.

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Nov 06, 2009

Alcohol, Sex, & Women


Having drunken sex is not only risky–it can also be humiliating and produce intense feelings of guilt and shame. Here is an excerpt from an American Council on Drug Education report on alcohol and sex in which a young woman recounts a drunken sexual encounter.
I was at a party at a friend’s apartment right before Thanksgiving. I got pretty tanked playing drinking games, and suddenly I was outside on this fire escape with a guy I’d met an hour earlier. I was doing something to him I’d rather not talk about. The next morning I woke up and couldn’t even remember his name. I felt disgusted. To make matters worse–either someone saw us, or he bragged to his friends about what happened, because after I got back from the break, a friend of mine told me I had a new nickname. I still haven’t lived it down, and I feel like I’m this big joke.”

Alcohol, Sex, & Women

Alcohol use increases the likelihood of unplanned and dangerous sexual liaisons for women resulting in heartbreak and regret.
Your first time was meant to be special with someone you love. If you are a virgin, don’t settle for sex when you really want love. If you have already had sex and regret it. Forgive yourself and move on. Don’t add to your regret by continuing to drink and hook up. You are worth more than that.

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Nov 05, 2009

The Alcohol & Sex Connection


Eighty Percent of first sexual experiences occur under the influence of alcohol. This is not exactly how most girls dreamed of losing their virginity. It’s not surprising that two-thirds of teens girls regret having sex. Alcohol lowers inhibitions, impairs judgment and interferes with decision-making. Alcohol abuse is directly related to unplanned and risky sexual behavior.
Here are some facts

  • 80% of first sexual experiences occur under the influence of alcohol
  • 51% of college students believe alcohol facilitates sexual opportunities.
  • 40% of men believe it is acceptable force sex on a woman who was drunk.
  • 32% of sexual assaults of college students occur at parties.
  • Almost 50% of unplanned sexual encounters are under the influence of alcohol
  • By their senior year in college, 81% of students have had sex because they were drunk.
  • College students who mix alcohol and sex report having more partners whom they know only “slightly” or “moderately.”
  • In two-thirds of unplanned pregnancies, the woman was intoxicated during sex.
  • 60% of STDs are transmitted when the partners are drunk.

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Nov 04, 2009

The bogus self-esteem movement


Genuine self-esteem is the result of an intricate conspiracy between what we think about ourselves, how those we love think and feel about us, and how we live our lives. Previous generations did not believe that esteeming the “self was all that necessary. On the contrary, one’s actions were of utmost importance. In other words, what one “did was infinitely more important than how one felt about him or herself.Those who succeeded in fulfilling their personal, social and moral obligations were generally held in high regard by their families and friends, which increased the likelihood that they would respect, and even like themselves.

The Self-Esteem Movement

The self-esteem movement of the 1970’s that spilled into the classrooms in the 1980’s and 1990’s is based on the faulty premise that self-esteem is a psychological commodity that can be passively bestowed on kids. For example, in the name of self-esteem members of most little league teams are awarded trophies even when they fail to win a single game. The assumption being that individual success or the outcome of fair competition is not nearly as important as assuring that every child feels praised and good about his or her participation. As a result individuals or teams that do not practice, or adequately prepare for competition are equally rewarded, and therefore, as “esteemed as those who commit to hard work and discipline to achieve excellence. Similarly, some school districts have gone so far as to replace traditional letter grades with a less competitive, egalitarian system of measuring academic performance. This is done to ensure that children who do not perform academically won’t feel bad about themselves. The result of this high minded exercise is that academic mediocrity is “esteemed”. Which begs the question? Do contrived accolades for mediocrity or even failure, no matter how well intentioned, really elevate esteem in children? They do not.
In truth, what has resulted from the self-esteem movement is not really self-esteem at all. To divorce recognition and reward from actual accomplishment produces a crippling, pseudo-esteem that crumbles like a house of cards under the pressures of real world competition where performance ultimately matters. This pseudo esteem was recently showcased on the television program American Idol when a young singer confidently assured the audience during a back stage interview that he would be chosen as a finalist. This young man simply oozed self-esteem. Interviews with his family confirmed that he possessed the attitude and confidence to not only advance in the competition, but to become the next American Idol. As it turned out the only thing this self-esteemed young man lacked was any real talent. When he was not chosen to advance he was devastated.

Genuine Self-Esteem

At its core, true self-esteem is the way we view and value ourselves, and our relationships to those who matter most to us. Self-esteem takes root in childhood when we learn that our parents and others love us unconditionally, in spite of our faults and failures, and at the same time push us to perform at our best. As children grow into adulthood, those with genuine self esteem live their lives closely aligned with their goals, values and morals. When they stray from this path, as everyone does, their self-esteem suffers. The resulting feelings of failure, remorse and guilt are healthy, but painful reminders that serve to correct wrong actions, seek forgiveness and strive to do better. Accepting our God given value along with our failures and limitations while at the same time striving to improve is the wonderful paradox of healthy self-esteem.

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