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Apr 24, 2013

Do You Want To Make A Difference?

Americans lead the world in self-esteem.  That sounds like a good thing, but it’s an issue, because in all reality, it is a bad thing.  We certainly don’t recognize that it’s a problem that affects those we love the most.
Now there is nothing wrong with confidence, or recognizing our unique gifts and talents.   But is our high regard for ourselves justified?  Does it match reality?  Have we failed in our attempts to build true self-worth in our children?  Have we sought to protect them so much from failure and challenges that we do everything for them and in doing so, they never learn?  Or, do we provide opportunities for our children to fail safely so that they might learn?
There is no perfect child, perfect parent, or perfect community.  So why pretend it is Disneyland while we stare at a nuclear landscape?  Until we confront the reality that we have taught our children to have a false sense of self-worth, and that it plays its way out into the culture, we will never be able to truly act together as a community for those we say we love the most: our children.
What difference do you want to make?
How would you feel if I told you that you would live another 40 years, but the future would be exactly the same as the present?  What if I told you that heaven was just like earth?  Personally, I think that would be depressing.  One of my favorite verses in scripture comes from Psalm 27:13: “I would have despaired unless I had believed that I would see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living. 
We all long for things to get better.  We do not want to despair.  We want to be part of making a difference.  We all crave, even yearn to be a part of seeing change take place.  We all hope.
So what is the difference you want to make in your own home?  How do you make an impact?  The first step is to start with you.  Augustine of Hippo wrote; “If you long to be what you are not, you must always be displeased by what you are.  Where you are pleased with yourself, there you will remain.
True Worth
Often when I speak I tell parents this simple truth:  be you, everyone else is taken. In other words, be authentic.  My goal is to encourage parents to communicate this message to their children, but I am really hoping for adults to recognize this in themselves.  Our children are often reflections of what we have taught them to be.
If we have taught them that we will take care of everything for them, spare them pain, decisions, challenges and problems, then we have taught them how they don’t have to handle anything else; someone will always be there.  But how valuable would you think you are if you were spared from everything.  Any worth you had would certainly not be based in anything you had done.  It would be a false sense of pride, disconnected from truly knowing what one’s unique abilities were.
Jesus addresses this very topic in Matthew 16:25-26 where he says; “Whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will find it.  What good will it be for a man if he gains the whole world, yet forfeits his soul?   Did you know that the translated words for life and soul in our English versions are the same word in the original Greek?  In both cases Jesus used the word psyche.  This is the person we are inside.  Go back and reread the verse above but substitute the words life and soul with the word self.  What Jesus is saying is this:  “If you try to create your own version of you, you will fail and lose yourself.  If you come to me in faith and accept the identity I give you, you will find yourself.  You will find the person that I carefully designed and created.  We are uniquely and wonderfully made!  That is our true worth.  There is no one like you!  Teach your children to be themselves, everyone else is taken!
If you share the same Christian worldview as me, then the idea that we are unique should encourage you.  Every instruction or command in the Bible implies that God has a plan for our growth.  One significant benefit of the Gospel is that the Spirit of God is at work transforming each of his people (Phil. 2:12-13; Gal 5:22-25; Rom. 8:3-4).
We all have deep reasons to have hope and to believe in personal change.  If we are image bearers of God, and God is a Father who leads, trains, and molds his children into new people, then we as people who are made in his image can be parents that lead, train, and mold our children into new people.  This gives us cause for much hope. Guidance and direction provide a picture of where we are headed.  Change is possible for everyone!  A difference can be made, today!

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Apr 17, 2013

It Starts With A Dream

It is easy to miss the effects the culture has on youth until it impacts your child. Then it may as well be happening to you, too. It is no longer just a statistic.  It is very personal when it impacts your entire family. That’s because there is nothing we do in life that does not affect someone else.  When one member of a family struggles with depression, drugs, alcohol, or any high risk behavior, others in the home are impacted too.  It is not simply the sleepless nights that a mom, dad, or a grandparent endures; it influences sisters, brothers, and cousins.
No one exists in a vacuum. Our lives affect everyone around us in some way. While it is easy to see the negative influence, it takes time and a willingness to look for the positive.  Isn’t that what we all crave, a hope for something different and a chance to see a changed life!
We are here to partner with you and your family in making a difference in your home, your community.  So we are asking you to partner with us in getting the word out that we are here to help.  To save youth that are in crisis.  To assist families who need hope.  To offer resources to communities on how to handle the challenges that this culture throws at us.
Change always begins by taking a simple step.  The challenge may seem overwhelming, but that does not mean that change is impossible.  There are opportunities every day to make a difference.  You can provide hope to one person!
Change begins with one.
Change begins with one at the PAYH.  However, it doesn’t ever end with just one person.  No one can truly measure the breadth or how far reaching the impact is of those who have been transformed while in our program.
One thing is for certain: when you invest in the Paul Anderson Youth Home, you are investing in individuals, families, and communities.  You are making a footprint and leaving a legacy for others.
Your support of what we do provides us with an opportunity to build relationships that are founded on hope, love, honesty, and grace.  Thank you for believing with us that your gifts will have an impact today and tomorrow.

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Apr 09, 2013

Why We Give

What does it take to change the world? ONE. You start with one life. That life impacts others and the number becomes far greater than one!
Jonathan’s family was forever changed by the investment of others into the PAYH. Their story is powerful not only because their son’s life was changed but their lives were changed as well.
Now, they are giving back so that others can be afforded the same opportunity as their son. They give to the PAYH because it enables them to makes a difference. They support because they know what families are facing. They invest because others invested in them when they were in crisis.
When you make a contribution in the PAYH, you are join families like Jonathan’s who are making a difference in the lives of others. You are providing a spark of hope that changes lives. Through your investment, you are helping us equip young men, families, and communities with the help they need at their time of need!
Will you partner with us today?

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