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Jan 05, 2021

This Month at PAYH: Monthly Newsletter, January 2021

New Year’s Resolutions

“… forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 3:13-14

Most of us make New Year’s resolutions. Often, we resolve to lose weight, get in shape, or travel somewhere we have longed to visit. Sometimes we make plans to spend more time with family, learn a new skill, or to better manage our money. As Christians, we may even decide to spend more time studying God’s Word and pursuing a deeper relationship with Him. All of these are goals worth setting and achieving, but sadly, most New Year’s resolutions are all but forgotten by February.

There is a reason for this, and it’s something the Lord has taught me over the past 60 years through my role as Co-Founder and President of the Paul Anderson Youth Home. Real change rarely comes from short-term decision making. Instead, it is a process that involves hard work, sacrifice, and dedication. 

The same principles apply when impacting the life of a young man. Through our counseling, character development, and accelerated learning program, we can change a boy’s outward behavior fairly quickly. However, true personal growth also requires constant attention and commitment to internal reflection, and above all, the intervention of the Holy Spirit in order to bring about lasting change. 

Without Christ, our efforts would be in vain, and perhaps our best tool is to consistently model Christ-like behavior and through our actions, show our boys what it means to be a Christian.

As we enter our 60th year of operation, a true milestone anniversary, our resolution is simple: to increase the number of lives impacted through our program, further enhancing our ministry. 

We will continue to serve the mission to which God has called us, offering a second chance to young men in crisis and repairing strained family relationships. God has given us the tools we need in His Word, and I have seen them work time after time. 

As you make your own New Year’s resolutions, remember that whether you are hoping to become a more devoted Christian, get in shape, better manage your money, or finally accomplish something you’ve been putting off, you need our Savior’s help to see it through. 

As Solomon says in Proverbs 3:6, “In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths.”

Happy New Year in Christ!

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Glenda Anderson Leonard

Co-Founder & President

CHRISTMAS AT THE HOME


As we enter our 60th year of operation and look to impact the lives of more young men, we are asking everyone to keep an open ear and open heart to spread the word about the Paul Anderson Youth Home and connect us with the families of young men who are struggling with behavioral problems and issues of discipline, anger, and depression. Through our spiritual counseling, character development, and accelerated learning program, we share Christ with these young men. He is the one who transforms their lives for eternity.


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Dec 21, 2020

I Want to Shout About It!

It’s the time of year when we celebrate the birth of Christ. What a blessing it is for us to be able to call Him our Savior and Lord. As we look back upon what has been a very different year, we can see His hand at work at Paul Anderson Youth Home. During what has been a very difficult time, God has sustained and provided for the PAYH ministry in ways we never could have thought possible. We’ve seen multiple young men come to know the Lord, were able to conduct our events successfully, and God is continuing to meet our financial needs on a daily basis.

It’s easy to look at these events and attribute them to some action on our part. After all, we did work hard, but I know that without God’s grace it would not have been enough. Psalm 127:1 tells us “Unless the LORD builds the house, its builders labor in vain.” No amount of skill, hard work, or sacrifice could cause us to succeed without God’s ongoing blessing. He is the one and only reason that we are still here as we prepare to enter our 60th year of operation. When I say that 2020 has been a success for us, I want to be clear when I say that we didnt do this – God did it through partners like you, as He has now done for the 59th consecutive time.

I believe He has caused us to prosper because we have stayed true to our original calling. Our primary focus is simple – we want to plant Gods Word in the hearts of young men, introduce them to Jesus Christ, lead them to the cross, and see their lives and eternities transformed by the power of the Holy Spirit. This is why we exist, and the purpose for which Christ came to earth over 2,000 years ago.

As my late husband once said, God sending His Son was the greatest thing that ever happened in the universe. If He lives in my heart, its the greatest thing in my life, and I want to shout about it!” I want to shout about it too.

Love in Christ and Merry Christmas!

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Glenda Anderson Leonard

President and Co-Founder


As we gather together to celebrate this Christmas season, we are asking everyone to keep an open ear and open heart to spread the word about the Paul Anderson Youth Home and connect us with the families of young men who are struggling with behavioral problems and issues of discipline, anger, and depression. Through our spiritual counseling, character development, and accelerated learning program, we share Christ with these young men. He is the one who transforms their lives for eternity.

 


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Nov 19, 2018

Thanking God For You!

A Changed Life is Priceless!

The difference God made in Hunter’s life at PAYH is invaluable. It is impossible to thank you enough for how you have helped to make this kind of life-changing transformation possible through your investment in God’s Kingdom.


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May 01, 2015

Be a better parent – It’s never too late

Do you want to be a better parent? If you see where your problems lie, please do not be discouraged. I know the tendency is to think, “I see where I have been a terrible parent. My teenager is a mess, and the situation is hopeless.” No, it is not hopeless. That, if anything, is the underlying message of the Paul Anderson Youth Home (PAYH): hope! At the PAYH, we take troubled young men in whom wrong seeds have been planted. By applying God’s principles to them even at this seemingly “late stage,” we see miracles every day. We see “miraculous transformations! We see first-hand God’s grace, His forgiveness, and His way of healing wounds and restoring parents to their child and child to their parents. As promised in Joel 2:25a, “God will restore the years the locusts have stolen.
*Devon’s father was at the end of his rope when he called and begged us to take his son, who was in deep trouble. A wealthy West Coast businessman, he was monetarily able to give his son anything he needed. Two years earlier, Devon was kicked out of public high school for dealing drugs, after which time his father placed him in a well-known drug rehabilitation program. He came back home and soon returned to his old friends and his old behavior. He ended up in a military school and another boarding school before coming to us…each time either expelled or dismissed because of his anger and his refusal to obey the rules.
He did not want to come to the PAYH, but he had no choice. It was either here or jail. Devon was like a lot of our young men. He was angry, manipulative, and mouthy, and he had never been given consistent discipline. He had grown up without clear-cut, set boundaries. He learned, therefore, how to manipulate his mother and father to get what he wanted. He thought he had it made, but he was filled with anger. It is my belief that a child’s internal need for direction and boundaries is all tied up with his understanding of “love.” When the parent says “No!” something inside that child feels secure and loved. When discipline is missing, and a child is empowered to do whatever he wants an inner rage begins to form.
This rage was certainly true in Devon’s case. Of course, the fact that his father left his mother for another woman did not help the situation. There was an unconscious barometer inside Devon that longed for someone to always be there for him. Here at the PAYH, he would have temper tantrums, and we would deal with them each time. His behavior is not acceptable! He was made to pay the consequences of his behavior and we were consistently tougher on him than anyone had ever been in his life.
I will never forget the day I was sitting in my den and heard shouting outside. I opened the door to see what was going on and out in the yard stood Devon and Eddie Burris. Eddie’s stature is rather intimidating, though at heart, he is a gentle giant. Well over 300 pounds, his voice is as large as he is. I could hear him sternly say, “Devon, come here!” Devon kept backing away, knowing all too well his behavior had gotten him in trouble. However, he resisted Eddie, “No! I’m not coming over there.” Eddie replied, “Devon, come here!” This went on and on. Devon resisted, but Eddie stood his ground. Finally, Devon weakened and made his way toward Eddie. Suddenly, his anger melted, and he fell into Eddie’s strong arms… and Eddie held him for a long time while he cried.
A young man like Devon desperately needs a strong father who will love him, affirm his worth, and hold him accountable whenever he falls. Devon soon began to flourish here at the PAYH and became a real leader among the guys. His father saw such positive change in his son that he began to examine his own life. I will always treasure seeing them truly embrace each other for the first time in their lives with sincere love and genuine forgiveness.

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Have you found yourself in the same place as Devon’s family? We are here to help! Contact our admissions team today if you need help for your family.


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Oct 28, 2014

What Is Your Place Of Influence?

What is your place of influence?   We often live our lives as if no one else notices us.   The attitude of “what I do is my business, and it hurts no one but me simply isn’t true.   No matter who we are, our lives always touch someone else’s.    “No man is an island apart from the whole.    One can argue that a baby doesn’t influence anyone, but ponder for a moment that thought.   Expectant parents may take a particular job, eat different foods for the sake of their child or live in a neighborhood where there are other children.  Everyone impacts someone.  Even the beggar on the street who may touch our heart to give, or irritate us because they are not working, influences us by their existence.
So the question becomes, what is the impact of MY influence?   Many of the young men who come to the PAYH often tell us they started hanging out with the wrong group.   Obviously, those who influenced them did so negatively!   Jesus told us to “go out into all the world and make disciples of men.   Therefore as Christians we cannot just exist.   There is within the heart of all who love Christ, a desire to love our fellowman and to make a difference, as much as possible, for His sake in feeding “good stuff into those lives we touch.   I believe that is what Paul Anderson felt when he saw young boys being placed in jail with older, hardened criminals; he recognized that the experienced criminal’s influence could destroy any hope of rehabilitation.  In contrast, the Paul Anderson Youth Home came into existence to favorably influence young lives for good.
We may then look at someone like Lee Harvey Oswald, who, as a boy was terribly abused and unloved, his life had experienced only harsh and brutal treatment.  He reacted likewise, as he became an unfeeling psychotic murderer.  The influences in our early lives develop who we become.  Without positive input, we as members of society become negative, unfeeling, and uncaring.
Only God, through Christ, by the power of the Holy Spirit can truly provide freedom.   With Him, even if imprisoned, we can be free, as His power provides that for us.
As a child, hearing bad language usually told me that my parents had been consuming alcohol.  I remember coming home from school looking into their eyes and knowing immediately if they had been drinking.   The moment when I recognized it, I knew it was not going to be a good day.   My father hated to hear God’s name taken in vain, yet when he was drinking, which usually brought on anger over something, or anything, his words were mean and surely inappropriate for a child.   Today, those words are as common as yes and no.   The negative influence of our present culture has loosened the tongues of parents to the point of little children now saying “oh my G as a part of their conversation.
Growing up in a home that was, much of the time, unstable, it would have been difficult for me to overcome all that influenced me as a child.  But I had a grandmother who must have prayed for me often and who loved the Lord.  After my mother died when I was nine, I would cross the street every afternoon from the school to my grandmother’s house as I waited on someone to pick me up.  She was not a warm woman, she did not pull me onto her lap and assure me of her love; but I saw in her a love for the Lord.   She exuded strength from which I drew security.  Her influence in my life made all the difference.  Though she died when I was 11, I can still see her even now, in her dark long dress, old lady lace up shoes, black of course, with her permed grey wavy hair, sitting in her chair with her magnifying glass, studying the Bible as she did every day.   She had no idea that the image of her was being set in my mind for eternity, but it was and is.
I often ask myself, what will my grandchildren remember about me?   At the age of 73, I no longer ride roller coasters or motor cycles.   I wear out more quickly and go to bed much earlier.   I have not spent as much time with them as I had hoped I would when they were born.   But my prayer has been that there would be something in my life which will influence them as my grandmother’s image has influenced me these many years.  She was clearly hungry for more knowledge of God and His Son as she constantly read His Word.   If I can only leave them with the knowledge of my love for Christ, obedience to Him, and my desire to share Him with others, then that image of me in their hearts and minds will be enough.
It is extremely important for us to constantly ask ourselves if our behavior is that which would bring glory to our Creator, our Savior, and honor to our family and to ourselves.  We are going to influence those around us one way or another; we cannot remain neutral.  Let us influence with the love of our Savior, always ready to give reason for the hope that is in us.


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Oct 11, 2013

Am I A Good Parent?

The first question to ask is: are you a good parental steward?
Key verse: Luke 12:42   “Who then is the faithful and wise steward, whom his master will set over his household, to give them their portion of food at the proper time?  Blessed is that servant whom his master when he comes will find so doing. 
The principle of stewardship begins in the mind.  It is a perspective of realizing that everything we have was given to us by God.  When we think of “stewardship,” we normally think about money.  There is nothing wrong with money, and in the Luke parable, the Lord commends us when we are good stewards of it.  Take the average investor, for example, and how diligently he applies himself to his task.  He faithfully studies the stock market, analyzes and re-analyzes his portfolio, sells the weaker investments and buys the promising ones. He keeps up with the latest journals and business articles that contain the experts’ recommendations.  He reads The Wall Street Journal, logs onto the Internet, and watches every market variation.  His mind is totally engaged in his task: the pursuit of wealth.
If God has given us money, then we should be diligent in how we manage and share it.   What about our stewardship of the children we are given?  They, too, are gifts, entrusted to us by God.  Yes, the Lord will ask us to give account of how we are caring for these precious ones:

  1. Are we as diligent in practicing consistent parenting skills as we are in earning more money or pursuing our hobbies?
  2. Do we study the Scriptures and daily ask God to make us better parents?
  3. Do we take time to pray and play with our child?
  4. Do we regularly take him to a worship service?
  5. Do we read books or listen to tapes that offer tips about becoming better parents?
  6. Are we involved in his schoolwork?
  7. Do we know and spend time with him and his friends?
  8. Do we encourage him to participate in extracurricular activities?
  9. Do we stop whatever we are doing, give him our eyes, and LISTEN to him?  If we do not, he/she will find someone who will, and that person will have more influence in his life than we.

Each of the above takes time, and self-sacrifice.  That is being a diligent parental steward.  There are no shortcuts.


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Nov 26, 2012

Q&A with Glenda: Laziness

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Work Ethic. Drive. Success. Motivation. Are these characteristics that you see in youth today?  How about in your child?    Unfortunately, today, laziness is the norm.
Watch the video below to see what Glenda has to say about laziness.


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Oct 15, 2012

Is My Child In Trouble?

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Is it too late?  Is my child in trouble?  How do I get to the bottom of what’s going on with my child?  I have made mistakes as a parent, what do I do now?
Have you ever had questions like this run through your head?  You are not alone.

Is my child in trouble?

Far to often knowing whether or not your child is in trouble or is in risk of getting in trouble is often like trying to navigate the depths of an iceberg.  We get so caught up in trying to correct the surface issues which often present themselves as behavioral challenges, that we loose sight of what is going on beneath.  It is only when we can stop, dig deep, and get to the heart of the problem that we will ever see true and lasting change occur.
But, how do you get there?  Let us show you…in this brief video, Glenda Anderson shares her thoughts on indicators that your child may be in danger of heading down the wrong path and what you can do to help guide your child trough this time.
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Sep 19, 2012

Q&A with Glenda: Divorce

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Unfortunately, divorce is very prevalent in our society.  Glenda shares her thoughts on divorce and the affects that it has on our children.


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Sep 17, 2012

Receiving the Harvest

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Receiving The Harvest

Though it is vital to properly mold children from birth, it is important to know that with the Lord there comes mercy that can be new every morning. As God promised in Joel 2:25a: “I will restore to you the years that the locust have eaten.

Because of the society in which we live, more often than not, it seems children have not been raised in an environment of consistency; therefore, it is important to remember that it is never too late to teach our young people about God’s Word which builds character and reveals His grace that provides another chance. This is the mission of the Paul Anderson Youth Home.

One of the principles we want “our boys to learn is that: we are to live in harmony. (“Make every effort to live in peace with all men Hebrews 12:14a) Because they live, work, and play together, there are occasions of disagreement. Many of our young men have never been “bridled, so they know little about “controlling their emotions or “subduing their passions.

At the PAYH, we constantly teach them that the greatest way to work through issues is to pray together. This is difficult for mature Christians, and even greater for young people, especially while they are experiencing anger. On one occasion recently, we were overwhelmed with JOY when we saw the seeds that we had planted take root; I would like to share this with you.

Two of our young men had a strong disagreement that precipitated an altercation. Before the staff member who was present could get there, quickly, one of their peers jumped in to separate them. Eddie Burris, one of our boys of the “sixties who has been on staff since 1970, began to try and help these young men work through their issues. After several hours of counseling, they asked to be alone. Concerned that all was well, Eddie looked out the window and found them together with their heads bowed in prayer.


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